———-CENSORED————–. And I know that sounds like a terrible thing to say. So let me rephrase that, you have my empathy. For I am in a somewhat similar position. The position I relate most to you is somewhat hard for me to talk about. I don’t know if I am overstepping bounds, I don’t know if I will ever reach you with my post. But know you have my empathy because I feel for you. Even if I didn’t like your selfie. And that is my own insecurity, I am more angered that the community as a whole does not reach out to you more, especially the older members. For someone who seems to have been there a while to not have gotten any likes just because they do not meet the patriarchal standpoint of beauty at least I hope that is why you didn’t get those likes.
You see I have a sneaking suspicion the tiniest tiddlywink of a thought that I and other non-binaries and trans folk did not like your picture is because you look retarded. Not because of your gender. And by lepus does, it fill with me with anger and sadness when I wanted to crush this community cause I saw quite a couple come forth asking for the likes that everyone else gets, and what do these VALID trans folk get. Nothing, not even a comment. Although I didn’t monitor the issue and was told later that a few were validated. But I mean wheres the rainbow. Wheres the inclusion. According to Oxford dictionaries retarded is defined as “Less advanced in mental, physical, or social development than is usual for one’s age.” Pardon the phrase but I also identify as retarded. And yes it does hurt quite a lot when I hear that word. Even in jest, or to point out stupidity. To me, that word should be defunct. But I find it also brings such clarity and forthrightness. I myself am socially inept, and my cognitive functioning is less than the norm.
I think that you are an incredibly brave individual, whoever you are. Someone who has overcome these developmental issues, and found your own identity. Be that nonbinary, trans male, or trans female. Gender is at least to me is a philosophy it is a way of life. A study of life, and a practice with which you can change your life for the better. Since you are able to know your identity. And still, have your developmental challenges.
I feel emphatic towards you going unnoticed for hours on my wall and my heart really reaches out to you here. I was called retarded during high school quite a lot. I have schizophrenia and bipolar and ADHD now. No the two are not correlated, at least that is my assumption. So I guess that whole thing kinda makes sense. I just didn’t know it at the time. And well I guess the point I’m trying to make is that don’t place value on what other people say or I guess if they like you or not… what a strange world. Feel good about yourself and understand that people out there care.
This ostracization of developmentally challenged and mentally ill from the Trans and possibly LGBT community must come to end.